I wrote this back in July 2012. It started off with a ‘things to sort physically’ paragraphy, which involved getting rid of furniture and clothes, papers and business items. I’m not sure where I was going, given that I am still living in the same house, but I was definitely in a moving on phase.
Once again, I find myself there, and the message I wrote to myself still strikes my heart with purpose, wisdom and compassion. Some of the knowledge I have put into practise, so much of it is still the evolution of myself.
Perhaps you will find a little inspiration within my words, as I have.
Things to sort emotionally: Tell your friends you love them. Leave the pain in the past and be grateful for how it has shaped you. Let your relationships with your birth families be. Visit your parents every 3 months, and make it even sooner if you can. Know that everything had a plan, to get you to where you should be, to make you strong enough to cope, to shape who you are, to recognise that depth of emotions are important, but do not have to rule who you are. Notice how others include joy in their life. Let the small things roll off you. Let others be who they are as much as you wish to embrace your own differences. If others judge you, realise it is because they are insecure and trying to make you feel smaller than them, and do not listen to their judgements as they mean nothing. Accept that you may always be searching for what you want to do, for who you think you should be, and that means a journey full of different experiences, of development, of ability to excel at anything you chose. This makes you are adaptable and capable far beyond what you perceive to be your limits. Love with your walls and boundaries down, with no expectations, just be with them. If you lose them, appreciate what you gained. If you keep them, then you both gain. The relationships you have may change, their declarations of feelings may change, what matters is your response to the change and letting go of who they have become. If they chose to only give part of themselves, accept this. If you need more, let them know, and find it else where. This does not mean that person has to leave your life, because what they do offer can be wonderful. Do not expect one person to fulfill all your needs in a relationship. Do not expect anyone to fulfill you and love you except you. Love yourself. You are the best person to know what is right for you, despite what others say, despite their opinions and comments, their looks, their judgements, it all comes down to you. You know how wonderful you are.
Things to sort externally: Cease external reliance. Accept that a job is just a job, it does not have to complete you. Allow it to stay at work, do what you need to do, and come home at the end of the day to live your life. Value yourself, but not to the detriment of getting your job done to your satisfaction. Be graceful. Be firm. Be resilient. Treat others, including strangers, as beautiful people with respect. Be courteous. Be humble. Smile. Accept that others who are like yourself are not competition but just beings doing their thing. Honour your body, with the things you eat, the way you move, the stretches you engage in, the pain it needs healing from. Let water cleanse you. Listen to your mind, challenge it, let it discover and engage in stronger thought than you give it. Express yourself. Gain financial independence, know where your money goes and indulge in things to make you happy, even though you have learnt not to do this. Say yes to more things that will make you smile, say no to things that you will regret. Learn more things that will give you job. Spend less time on the things that don’t matter. Don’t carry guilt. Dont carry shame.
Allow yourself to be at one with the trees that bend, the breeze that blows, the waves that crash and the heart that beats.